You and I can agree that fights don’t always finish when we say they do. And if you’re anything like most people, you’ve probably tried one of the following to cut your fights’ tail:

• Create space
• Create silence
• Do your own thing

They don’t always work, do they? If you’re open to trying something new, let me tempt you with the most basic idea:

To put a lingering fight with your spouse to sleep, shower her with the kind of love she understands.

If her primary love language is words of affirmation: flatter, encourage, appreciate.
If she understands love through physical touch: hug, embrace, massage.
If acts of service make her feel loved: then help, lighten her burden, bring relief.

Eventually you will reap the love you sow, especially if it’s sown when she least expects it. In the heart of fire.